My Favorite Place, With You
What is my favorite place? With you. Since you exist, there is no corner more placid than that which you form in my body. There is no sweeter taste than that of your kisses, there is no sound more magical than your laughter, my son.
Since I have been your mother, my favorite place is with you. Because that happiness is that and much more. For me, the life of is made up of all those details by your side, good, memorable, infinite, precious. Everyone has a place in my heart.
Today we are going to reflect a bit about emotional spaces, also known as ’emotional places’. It is neither more nor less than what we call our ‘favorite place’ and that is so important to us in life.
Emotional spaces occupy a privileged place in our hearts. Motherhood offers us the possibility of enlarging that space and expanding our affective capacity without limits, as we had never imagined before, with which we can experience many ways to be happy.
Being a mother brings a lot of happiness to our life and gratitude for it is impossible to explain in exact words, but you dear reader, you know what I am talking about.
The magic ingredient couldn’t be simpler: having the people we love by our side.
Happiness consists of knowing who and what is important in our life. Knowing how to remember that the best place in the world is the skin of our children, the flesh of our flesh. So are the caresses and the satisfaction of being well with ourselves.
Happiness is a choice, not a goal
Possibly in your day to day you have met more than once with those friends or coworkers who say they are fed up with everything, that the children give them a lot of work, that they are increasingly demanding, protesters and that they hardly have time to relax or enjoy a moment of peace and silence.
Whenever you find yourself in these situations, a simple thought is worth keeping in mind:
We can choose to stay with the complaint. Of those who regret not being able to sleep hardly, of those who are obsessed because their baby is not like others and still does not leave the diaper. We can be the one complaining because your child hasn’t learned to read yet or …
We can choose to be happy, build with what we have, and focus on improving things in order to reach better states.
In the face of adversity, it is best to appreciate what we have. Understand that parenting is not easy. But since we decided to create life and bring it into the world it involves a little effort on our part. After all, happiness is 80% a matter of attitude and 20% knowing how to maintain it, knowing how to look at things with the heart.
You, my favorite place, my everything
People occupy places in the lives of others and we do not speak of physical spaces at all, but emotional ones. To understand it better, just give a simple example. It is very possible that you have a family member with whom you do not have a good relationship. Maybe it’s a cousin, an uncle, and even someone close to you.
If that bond was harmful or traumatic, the emotional space it occupies in your life will undoubtedly be negative. You may even have chosen to “disinfect” his figure in your heart, erase it.
However, those who enrich us, who take care of us, who love us, validate us and give us happiness, undoubtedly occupy gigantic spaces in our hearts and in our minds.
Thanks my life. For occupying my whole being
Something without a doubt curious that happens only with children is that they come into the world with all the space gained. Almost without knowing how, they occupy each a place in us, fill every bit of our mind and every nook of our heart. And day by day that space grows and grows. It is a unique experience.
On the other hand, other people, such as our partners or friends, have gained those emotional spaces little by little thanks to their good work, good deeds and that magical connection that occurs so rarely in life. Also these types of connections are the product of circumstances and how things arise.
However, our children instead conquered every area of our affections immediately. Simply by existing.
You are my happiness and you will always be
Happiness is a matter of attitude, we know that. We also understand that to be happy we do not need great things, often, it is enough for us with that day to day where harmony, calm and complicity with our own gives us that unequaled well-being.
To be happy we must learn to tolerate and understand the disappointments, sadness, and challenges that life often throws at us. By this we mean something very simple: happy families are those that together, know how to cope with adversity and those moments that sometimes break our balance.
When we overcome difficulties, for example we manage to return home with our premature baby, we feel excellent.
We feel that we have left behind a difficulty and that now, everything is going to go for the better, for the good of all. We feel that this great joy invades us because we have been strong, because we have learned from that process that we believe it or not, it was necessary.
If you ask me what is my favorite place, I will tell you that the one in which we are together, we can grow and walk hand in hand. That, my life, is happiness.
