A Child Is Not Defined By His Grades
Although it may seem obvious to some, many others have not yet entered their heads: A child is not defined by his grades. Under any concept. Children should not be pigeonholed or labeled by the grade they receive for their school performance.
Well, every boy is worth a lot. They are all different and consequently have very diverse abilities and skills. Likewise, each minor maintains a completely different learning pace from the other. In this way, defining the creature by its notes becomes a serious mistake.
Of course, we are talking about a mistake capable of considerably damaging the child’s self-esteem. Well, they can sometimes feel unintelligent and even discriminated against, both by the teacher and by their classmates.
In this complex panorama, that father who pressures the child with difficulty to reach that ten so dreamed of by his parents can be harmful and hurtful for the child. The essential thing is then to see all the virtues of the child and support him in his difficulties.
Your Notes: An Indicator, Not Your Karma
Your notes can’t define it. By presenting low grades in certain subjects, he is not lazy, nor donkey. It cannot be taken, in any way, as a red flag. There are simply children who have greater facility for certain subjects and difficulty for others.
This is absolutely normal. Even, in the background, some pedagogical proposal or strategy may be hidden that is not adequate for that boy. Not all knowledge is easy for most children to understand and absorb in a certain way.
In the same way, the concept or knowledge to be transmitted may not yet be suitable for the child, with a slightly slower personal and own cognitive and maturational development. For this reason, it is essential to discover the world behind your notes.
It is not enough simply to label the child by his notes: “gross”, “lelo”, “lazy” and other qualifying adjectives that only harm, hurting his self-esteem and security like a dagger. The child does not need to be reprimanded, punished or subjected to greater doses of pressure.
Of course, if your child is a slow learner, help him walk this path by taking slower steps, walking more slowly with the teacher. Your grades cannot become karma, and newsletter or assessment deliveries a nightmare.
How to act to help him with his notes?
In the first instance, if what worries you so much is his grades, you must act. How? Just helping him in the right way. That is, without pressure or persecution, without undermining or labeling. The idea under no point of view is to make the child feel bad.
So in what way? In the first place, helping him with the homework of that subject where the grades are alarming. It means, reason with him while he does his homework, give him other tools and insights on the subject at hand.
It is thus possible to appeal to playful or even audiovisual material, so useful when it comes to transmitting knowledge in a dynamic way to the youngest. Motivate him, encourage him, make him feel that he can do it, that you believe in him and, above all, celebrate every little achievement that has to do with that difficulty.
Arm yourself with high doses of patience and perseverance, but avoid at all times being you the one who solves their tasks and problems with such matter. Far from helping him, you harm him considerably and, in this case, the little one will only learn that his mother is the best doing it while he is not able to achieve it.
Even if you are concerned that a more complex problem -neurological or attention and comprehension- is hidden behind their notes, you can talk with the teacher and evaluate together if it is convenient to consult with a psychopedagogue.
You see that there are several paths you can take when a school newsletter brings bad news. Opting for negative action will only lead you to harm the child and worsen his grades. These options are appropriate and correct in order to help your child in this process. Which one do you choose?
