How To Help Children Be Safe

Lack of safety in children can negatively affect their development. In fact, it is necessary to help them to have confidence in themselves so that they can develop the necessary strength for life.

In other words, both self-esteem and security allow a human being to feel comfortable with himself and, in turn, gain validation from his toughest judge: himself.

All children need time and space to discover themselves. However, we can always help them so that each day they feel more comfortable with themselves and thus enhance their self-love in a healthy way.

A self-confident child is one who allows himself to experiment with the people and objects around him freely and with good self-awareness; that is, they will not feel threatened, unfit, or present any other perception with a negative connotation.

Although it may seem contradictory, those  Children brought up under the precepts of attachment parenting turn out to be very independent children. This is because both the education and the dedication that they receive from their parents, gives them the necessary support to push themselves forward.

In order for a child to feel confident about himself, he must first perceive security in his environment. In this regard, it is extremely important that parents know how to transmit safety to their children, demonstrate or let them know the following:

1. That they are beloved and because they have been desired even before their conception.
2. That they can trust their parents and vice versa.
3. That they are respected and that they will not be required to do things the way parents always want them.
4. That they are listened to and that their opinion is also valid.
5. That there are solid ties in the family nucleus.

How to help them be confident

Educate them with freedom

As the child grows, it is normal for him to become independent. It is the parents’ job to help them discover the world and experience it in a balanced way; that is to say, preventing him from the risks that each of his acts have and warning him of some dangers, but without depriving him of having fun and playing freely.

Play helps children a lot to discover the world and to structure it. Let him play and do activities that help him achieve goals. Striving to achieve your goals will help you realize that you can achieve what you set out to do. This is very valuable to feed your self-esteem, which is a fundamental bastion to feel confident.

Encourage them to do things for themselves

If you want to help your child grow up confident, you should avoid educating your child to need you. The first thing you should talk to him about is independence and the many benefits of trying to do things yourself.

Logically, as a child is a person in training, sometimes it will be easier for him to do certain activities than others and he may ask for your help to do some of those things that cost him.

Teach them to work as a team

There is nothing wrong with you helping them. The point is that the intervention of mom and dad should guide the child to achieve the goal he has set for himself. You should try to help him but you should not do things to him, because in this way you are limiting his learning.

Work as a team with the child, help him to share the merits of a task. And celebrate their progress, not the results. That way, if you fail at a task, you will learn to try harder next time. This reflection and your timely interventions will make your child feel confident that there is always a chance to improve.

Learn to delegate, let go, let go

Sometimes many parents forget that although their children came out of them, they are not an extension of themselves. In general, that selfishness that we all carry inside and our own personal deficiencies make, unconsciously, sometimes our children are educated in affective dependence.

Remember that although you have certainly given him life, now life is his and as he grows up he must decide – more and more – on his own, so that he discovers and grows. If you are tempted to advise, do so, but in a timely and liberating manner.

Be tactful: give constructive criticism

Sometimes without bad intention, many parents comfort their children by saying things like: Come here, poor thing. Or some other phrase. The pedagogue Elena Roger Gamir advises eliminating phrases such as: Poor thing from your vocabulary. It is your son who is in training, not a poor person, he explains.

This advice is valid for other comments that invite the child to feel sorry for himself. Hence the importance of choosing your comments well and that can be achieved if you learn to manage your emotions.

Stay away from negative messages and reinforce positive ones. Even if your child has not done things well, you can find a way to say them in a constructive way. Ideally, parents encourage the development of healthy self-esteem in their children; that’s the key to helping them feel confident.